I have been married for over 20 years and in that time I can truly say that I still don’t have anything mastered. However, there is one thing that I have discovered: the way that we communicate with one another is crucial. I’ve learned that my husband and I will express our love for one another the way that we like to receive it. Because we are different people, we typically express our love for the other in the OPPOSITE way that the other would prefer. It’s not that we don’t appreciate what the other has done; however, it would have been even better if it had come in the package that we long for. One of the most hurtful things that we have experienced is when you feel as though you did a great job by showing your spouse how much you love them, but they don’t receive it that way.
One tool that can be used to help with this is The 5 Love Languages written by Gary Chapman. If you haven’t read this book, I would strongly suggest it. This book not only helps to identify what your love language is, but guidance on what your spouse's love language is also! So, here’s the reason why I am reaching out to you. When building anything, we must have the right tools. We’ve probably heard at some point, “Happy wife, happy life”. However, I love one that I recently heard, "Happy Spouse, Happy House”. We can all relate! Let one of us have an attitude, there is a complete paradigm shift! So, let’s work on taking care of our spouse in their language. If you haven’t been able to quite determine the ability of showing your spouse how much you love them in THEIR love language (or maybe you have) I need your input!
Here is the link to the quiz. Please complete and take note of the top two on your list. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Now is the time for your input! Please identify your primary and secondary love languages. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe28YFPmIK10rEiApNjAmc7kE-w1S01BNDNoqWGYKZnTMN6Aw/viewform?usp=pp_url